You don’t have to carry this on your own.
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Steady, practical support for mums navigating addiction or mental-health challenges in their adult kids.
Beyond the Chaos supports mums who are overwhelmed, worried, and tired of living in constant high alert.
Here you’ll find calm guidance, practical tools, and a steady place to land — so you can respond with clarity and confidence, even when things feel uncertain.
JOIN BEYOND THE CHAOS— $67 NZD/month. Cancel anytime.Right now, you might be feeling…
🔹 Overwhelmed and exhausted from carrying this on your own.
🔹 Like you’ve tried everything… and nothing seems to make a difference.
🔹 Unsure what the “right” thing is anymore — second-guessing every conversation, every boundary, every message.
🔹 Afraid of making the wrong move and pushing your child further away or making things worse.
You’re not failing. You’re not alone. And you don’t have to keep doing this without support.
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What’s Inside Beyond the Chaos
A gentle, practical support system designed to help you feel steadier and to give you practical tools and strategies to create an environment where positive change becomes possible — without adding overwhelm.
- Weekly Meet Ups for connection, clarity, and support
- The Path — short, steady lweekly essons that help you understand what’s happening and what to do next
- Private Member Podcast so you can listen on the go
- A Calm, Supportive Community of mums who truely "get it" and where you’re not doing this alone
- Practical tools and practices to help you feel more grounded each week
- Â Me in your back pocket, someone you can turn to when you need calm, perspective, and reassurance
Beyond the Chaos
MEMBERSHIP
was built for mums just like you —and it’s designed to
meet you right where you are.
JOIN BEYOND THE CHAOS— $67 NZD/month. Cancel anytime."Beyond the Chaos has been life-changing in a subtle, meaningful way.
The weekly bite-sized lessons never feel overwhelming, and the coaching calls help steady me when things with my son get hard."Â
FOUNDING MEMBER
Here's What We'll Walk Through Together
Step Into Support
You’ll never have to do this alone again.
Learn What Actually Helps
Tools that steady you, calm conflict, and build trust.
Create Space for Change
Your steadiness gives you real influence — even if your child isn’t ready yet.
Weekly Support & Group Coaching
A safe, steady space each week to talk things through, get guidance, and feel less alone — no pressure, no judgment.
Members Only Podcast Feed
Listen on the go to grounded, gently guided episodes that help you calm your mind, steady your emotions, and shift how you show up.
The Path (Your Guided Roadmap)
Bite-sized steps that help you understand yourself, make sense of your child’s behaviour, build more connection and learn what actually works.Â
A Supportive Community of Mums
You’ll be surrounded by women who truly get it — a place where you don’t have to explain, hide, or pretend.
Monthly Themes & Tools
Each month we focus on one practical theme (like communication, steadiness, boundaries, fear, or connection) so you’re never overwhelmed.
Resources
Everything you need, available anytime, so you can go at your own pace without ever worrying about keeping up.
“Sandra’s gentle guidance and her ability to notice small shifts in me have helped me feel more confident, compassionate, and connected — whether my son changes or not. This space makes the journey feel less lonely.”
FOUNDING MEMBER
Beyond the Chaos Membership is Right For You If:
🔹 You're tired of living in constant fear, overwhelm and emotional exhaustion
🔹 You’ve tried everything you can think of, but nothing seems to make things better.
🔹 You want more connection, steadiness, and influence — even if your child isn’t ready for change yet.
You're in the right place!
Imagine this becoming possible for you…
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🔹 You wake up without that familiar knot in your stomach — and your first thought isn’t “What’s going to happen today?”
🔹 You know how to respond instead of react, and your words come out calmer, clearer, and with more confidence.
🔹 Conversations with your child feel less tense, and you start to notice moments of connection that you haven’t seen in a long time.
🔹 You stop second-guessing everything, because you finally understand what actually helps (and what doesn’t).
🔹 Your nervous system begins to settle, and you feel more grounded, more steady, and more in control of yourself.
🔹 You feel influence returning, knowing your presence makes a difference — you're creating an environment where positive change becomes possible.
“Sandra helped me through the toughest year of my life.
Her calming, compassionate nature made it possible to understand what was really happening beneath the addiction and the behaviours.
The tools she gave me continue to steady me in every part of my life — personal, work, and family.
I’ll be forever grateful for her support.”
COACHING CLIENT
Hey, I'm Sandra
I work with mums who have been carrying more than anyone should for a very long time.
I don’t believe change comes from pressure, fear, or trying harder. I’ve lived what that costs — and I’ve seen how quickly it can erode connection, energy, and self-trust.
My work is grounded in steadiness, respect, and staying engaged without losing yourself. I won’t promise outcomes I can’t control — but I will help you show up in ways that protect your wellbeing and keep influence possible, even when things feel uncertain.
Beyond the Chaos isn’t about fixing your child or disappearing from their life. It’s about learning how to stay present, set boundaries, and live with yourself along the way — whatever happens next.
JOIN BEYOND THE CHAOS— $67 NZD/month. Cancel anytime.